Today the world rubbed some things in my face again when I watched the movie “The Vow”. It’s basically about two people falling in love with each other from day 1, being in love every day until they both had a car accident and Paige (the main actress) selectively lost her memory of Leo (the main man) and everything about her life from that point. And the conflict started there. Having said all these, you’d probably say there’s nothing special with the plot but let me tell you what I actually liked about the movie & what it taught me:

  1. I like that part where they instantly fall in love with each other, grew more and more in-love as they go on with their relationship, they have fun in their own way, where everything seems spontaneous, they talk about and tell each other everything, and they’re both just happy with each other that they ended up marrying each other and telling each other vows that basically say that they’d find their way back to each other, no matter what.
  2. When Paige lost her memory, she couldn’t remember who Leo was. She couldn’t remember her life with him—how she was with him, the choices she made, the changes in her habits and personality when she was with him. But Leo was so patient with her, he tried everything he could to help Paige remember her everyday routine, her chosen career, the things she loved, and her feelings for him. I’ve never seen someone tried so hard to hold on and believe that everything is going back to how they were, even if he is also hurting—because what could’ve been more painful than the love of your life not remembering what you both have? The movie also showed Paige trying to regain her memory but she felt so lost that she didn’t try as hard and just chose the easy way out. But Leo still held on and tried hard until one day, he doesn’t have anything to give anymore. That’s something I like about him–pain and frustration or disappointment didn’t stop him from loving her. He was patient, he was hopeful, he believed in what they have. I just wished Paige did the same thing. I kind of felt for Leo. Because sometimes, especially during hard times, we all want to see our partners fight for us, too. We all want our partners to remember who we are in their lives and use that as their driving force to make the relationship work. We all don’t want to hear “i don’t know what will become of us”, “no, we’re not ever going to have this or that”, “no, i don’t think we are ever getting married”, “no, I don’t think I can do this anymore”. All those would probably or eventually weaken anyone, or any relationship.
  3. Anyway, towards the end of the movie, they still figured out a way to get back to each other even if it took quite some time. I also like the fact that Paige finally wanted to help herself and move on with her life and try to rebuild herself instead of wasting time trying to remember those lost memories. Leo, on the other hand, didn’t try to see or love other people, he went on with his life, kept loving Paige even if they’re not together anymore. I guess I am Leo in many ways. I want to be him. I want to be that kind of person who won’t ever give up on the love of my life, the kind who would still love even if everything hurts, the kind that would let go only if that’s the only way that would make my partner happy.

So yeah, I cried over a movie again.   Sometimes I’d like to think that being a mushy person is both a strength and a weakness. Haha. Hmm. Watch the movie. It’s good. Plus it got Channing Tatum & Rachel McAdams. Go grab a popcorn and yeah, maybe a few tissue. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯